Compassion

This is one of those days where you just assume to sit in the sun. It’s currently 51°f and not a cloud in the sky. I was spoiled rotten the last two days at a hotel on the beach. It may have been cold and windy outside, in the room it was nice and toasty, with plenty of hot water. It was my bride and I’s 36th wedding anniversary. And as usual we took a day trip to the beach to Jekyll Island Georgia. Lisa collects seashells for her art, so she spends her time picking up shells and sand dollars. While I just sit and meditate, take pictures, and write.

We spend a tremendous amount of time together due to Lisa’s disabilities. So our beach time is our one outside the home times to pursue different activities, while still being within earshot of each other. I’m not much on describing our relationship, because with any long term relationship things change. We both require a lot of alone time. Mostly due to the fact we are totally different people. Since the kids are grown, our priorities have changed our relationship between each other has changed. It doesn’t mean we don’t care about each other, but the passions have changed.

The idea of some eternal love is something I see a lot of couples struggle to maintain. I believe ours is more of a mutual partnership, where we benefit from each other’s gifts. While at times we get very frustrated with one another. There’s no holding back with our honesty we give each other. I’ve seen couples fall apart and disintegrate due to health or financial issues. With us that could have happened a thousand times over. But we both very much live in the real world. So we understand love and unity come in many forms. Meaning passion and fire aren’t always the most important of those qualities, but compassion is.